Please help - my Beloved Husband is turning 40 in April.
I am looking for ideas to celebrate his special day. One of my thoughts is 40 gifts over 40 days. Can anyone help me come up with 40 ideas for 40 gifts.
Does anyone have any other thoughts? I am not looking for the "We should sail around the world to celebrate" gift - unless anyone is willing to make a large cash donation, ha!
Is anyone willing to share what was special for you when you hit a big "0" birthday? Please comment, I would love to read about it.
A little about my Mister - He loves to spend time with our family, golf, fish, read, laugh & love. He is a wonderful husband (16 years) and a fantastic father to our sons. He is the most unselfish man I have ever seen. I would love to make this birthday special for him.
If anyone has any thoughts or ideas on how to celebrate a new decade, I would love to hear from you.
Thank you!
VG
Need Help!! DH has 40th birthday soon.
February 27th, 2009 at 07:25 am
February 27th, 2009 at 12:52 pm 1235739138
I hope I am not being mean by saying this, but perhaps the novelty of it would wear off after a few days? You know, the element of surprise would be gone after a few days, thinking, "Oh ok, there's 37 more days like this. Yay."
Us guys.... I suppose we're more into the "Let's do it, big and all at once!" thing? You know, one day extravaganza, hit it with everything you've got. At least, that's the typical stereotype about men always gravitating towards big things, whereas women gravitate towards the little things?
In particular, when a guy is about 40-ish, he might start having some kind of mid-life crisis.... Like, what kind of stuff did he miss not being able to do because he is married and has a family to raise. I'm sure he's not complaining or anything, but usually, there's at least that one sports car, motorcycle, or large plasma TV that he might not have been able to buy because of it.... That's one good area to focus on. Not necessarily what he might have been able to do while married, but what he has not been able to do while married. Such a gift, I think, would have a more profound impact. It would also head off any potential sense of remorse over a mid-life crisis.
Otherwise, I would just stick to his interests. You mentioned golf and reading.
February 27th, 2009 at 03:19 pm 1235747960
However, I refuse to believe if I don't provide him a "sports car" gift for his 40th my DH is out the door resenting his wife & kids.
Does anyone else think he is headed for mid-life crisis if I get the wrong gift?
Keep in mind I would like to be reminded of his 40th because it was special - not because I have 59 more "easy payments" to make.
February 27th, 2009 at 03:46 pm 1235749614
For my 40th, we went out to an extremely nice restaurant for a dinner that was way, way, WAAAAAY (way) more money than I would normally even consider spending. (For any Seattlites out there ... need I say more than "Herbfarm"?)
For my DH's 40th, I threw a party at our house (cocktails & finger foods).
What about arranging a nice round of golf at a course that he has always dreamed of playing but would never spend the money on for himself?
February 27th, 2009 at 04:08 pm 1235750937
How about a fishing license and a coupon from the family '40 Hours Free Time' inserted into a basket of necessities for the day: lunch items, bait, new thermos (for hot or cold drinks), etc.
I think 50 is a bigger milestone for men (40 for women).
February 27th, 2009 at 04:14 pm 1235751271
And OH NO would I ever suggest that if he doesn't get a sports car, he's going to resent being married and being a family man. Nothing like that at all! I am only suggesting that, without knowing next to anything about yourself and your husband, some men have experienced something like a mid-life crisis around this age. The experience, I imagine, varies from man to man, and not all men come out resenting it.
So, perhaps there's something that he wanted but wasn't able to do because perhaps you two have busy lives pursing career and raising a family? An extended vacation perhaps?
When I was married, because we were so busy with our family life, we were not able to go travel. Be it Disneyland, Hawaii, or Japan, our children were simply too small to be left alone. That and a cruise in the Caribbean.
So, if I was still married, and I wanted a present for my 40th birthday, I would have LOVED something like that. Best of all, this would be something that you can both share! But that's just me, and it has to be something that your husband wants.
Good luck!
February 27th, 2009 at 11:29 pm 1235777352
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Jerry